Contrary to some that see the imposition or violence against the one or the other in the relationship as strength it is rather a grave sign of weakness and gross failure in human communication.
Such happens when one or the other is seen as a slave or without dignity.
Often the perpetrator has a very low
sense and no value for human dignity that he/she has no compunction in denigrating or intimidating a mate or
one's partner.
But no child of God is a slave.
To be domestically violent and abusive in your relationship or
marriage is to be an anti-Christ and to deny the reality of the death and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ
that raised human life to the level of dignity rather than slavery.
Also, to stay in an abusive relationship or
marriage for the sake of God or your children is to live in bondage and bear false witness to the death and
resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ that set us free.
It means you do not believe in the freedom we have
been given through the resurrecting power in the blood of Jesus on the cross.
Christ is the One victim who
dies no more.
None of us deserves to be made a victim.
When Jesus cried out “it is finished" our destiny unto freedom was established, and forever you are free.
You abuse your partner because of your false belief in who you are, because of your quest for external power.
Only a toxic Christianity encourages violence.
The moment you surrender to God every false notion you have
of yourself and your identity changes.
The moment you become free, treating your partner as tenderly as God
treats him or her you are living free from bondage of sin and you'll experience healing from sickness.
You
need not ask if you are in flow with God as an abusive partner because you are clearly against God and His
creation.
Seek healing and seek the truth of your true identity both for the abused and the abuser.
Staying in an abusive relationship or marriage is educating your children falsely in that marriage, which is a
key factor in marriage.
There is room for separation while you raise your children and forgive and pray for
your Abuser (Canon 1153).
You are an enabler when you stick with a domestically violent and an abusive person because without you
there won’t be violence in the first place.
You must know that every domestically violent or abusive partner is
sick and needs help, and unfortunately you are not the right person to help him or her heal.
Women are mostly the vulnerable ones in most cases of abuse and domestic violence.
This flows from a
Christianity that is preached to make a woman look like a zombie that cannot make decisions for herself, or
that they need a man before being validated or considered virtuous, or that they cannot walk away from a toxic
marriage because they are judged by their marital status or made to believe leaving a toxic relationship is a
sin.
Women, you have to walk away from him to save your life and to help him heal.
Your absence will bring an
emptiness in him which will draw him closer to his healing. Many boys trapped in man's body spirituality
stupidity, oppression, and evil.
He has to change. God loves him and will put him on the right spot for his
healing and conversion.
Hiding evil is participating in that evil.
You must stand with Christ for the truth for the sake of God and the
sake of your children and their relationships in the future.
Our life is beautiful and complete in God.
He who abuses or enables domestic violence has no God in him or
her.
John 10:10 – “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come so that they may have life and
have it to the full.”